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NEED ADVICE IN FIGHTING THE SCHOOL SYSTEM ON MY CHILD’S BEHALF

Inspiration started this conversation
Jan 20, 2012

My 17 year-old son, who is an Eagle Scout with 10 years’ service in the Boy Scouts of America was expelled on January 4, 2012 by a tribunal appointed by the School District Board of Education in our county for behavioral issues.  Since I fully recognize that his behavior pattern does not fit the structure and values that he has been taught, I have sought help from a licensed behavioral counselor and have shared that information with the school system. 

 

I filed an immediate appeal on my son’s behalf for various reasons, but primarily because I felt that some laws may have been broken during the tribunal proceeding.  Approximately twice during the tribunal proceeding, confidential information was accidentally referenced to and disclosed on another student/defendant whose case was to be heard later that day.  Although, this was entirely unintentional, we had already seen and now know the student’s name and read the disciplinary charges against her; including her grades and attendance records before realizing we were given correspondence on a student other than our son.  I was the only one who noticed the mistake and interrupted the proceeding to alert those in the room of the error.  Consequently, when the final judgment was rendered that my son was being expelled and sent to alternative school, I left feeling that the tribunal committee may not have been fully prepared to judge his case due to the mix up between the two cases as well as contemplating the possibility that confidential information on my own child may also have been accidentally exposed.

 

Unfortunately, I lost the appeal.  I was notified by a generic letter stating only that the School Board has decided to uphold the original decision and nothing more.  There was no mention as to the reasons why and none of my concerns were addressed or mentioned.  I still have no reassurance that confidential information on students is being handled properly.  The generic letter made me feel as if my son was generic and that my concerns were meaningless.  For that reason, I have decided to file an appeal with the State Board of Education. 

 

If anyone else has experienced something like this and can offer advice or support, it would be greatly appreciated.

 

Respectfully,

 

Inspiration

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two teen boys
Jan 20, 2012
You can email me at my yahoo email addy..I can get you in touch with a strong mom one who knows the laws..an supports parents who stick up for their kids an who pay attention to them. I think there are alot of parents out there who are more concerned with making money making money ..they say its for a roof over their head but relaly its so they can have extra to spend spend on themselves an their kdis..so they can show off the cool new gagets tehy can get. thos things dont really matter..the cool gagets there will be out dated in a year anyhow sooo what. Many years ago people didnt try to make more so they can spend more..they didnt have cell phones just home phones..they dindt have ipads ect.. they were more about their families an the familys were closer. Poor kids now adays left alone alot more..parents to tired to really take time to look at the kdis while they try to talk about their day at school. or to event ask the kids if they need help with the school work. its a shame it really does make me feel bad that most people are fast food an quick meals ..rather work make money so someone else can cook for you?lol what ever its so sad for the kids now adays alot of them are alone when at home.. an things they do parents dont event know where the kids are ..they are just glad their gone ..not under their feet. Anyhow.. back to what you were saying sorry i got off track hahaha. email me i will give you number to which you can exsplain your situation to her an she will help you brain storm an tell you what she knows about the law an what you shoudl do. ( jennie022003@yahoo.com ) ...have you tried advicts?I went through dure prossess witht he schools to fought for a appropreatate education for my son too.. see the schools will always have more money then us.. they use our own tax dollars against us an everyone esles taxes too. PLus you know who in the end rates the hearing officers right? at the end of the year the STATE sends the school who had gone through due prosess papers to grade the hearing officers..they dont send the parents the same pappers nope. jsut the schools . soo you see if the hearing officers want to keep working ..an not get black balled from the all other schools they better side with the schools 99% of the time..no matters whos right or wrong..if they want to make money for their family. Its no wonder the school can be totaly out of compliance an still win..Its crazy. everything is suppose to be imparcial hearing officer haha yeah right. everything is supose to be fare but its not the state looks out fort the schools.. way way out of their way looks out for them . I could tell you in several ways how this happends..the parents unles you have a special name behind your fmaily you dont really have a chance. the state event with things like writtign the schools up filing complaints with teh state ..make sure you do that get the reports of everything on file make it known if it isnt filed an resported IN writeing then they will say it is as if it never happeend ..not untiol you file complain an put it all in writting. now if you an another perosn say something they might have to go look an check thigns but still they will call school tell then when an when an what time day ect..what their loking for what files ect ..an then the state will go on that exact day they wont jsut pop in on school they dont want to really find anything wrong . everytime i filed complaines i ask state how about you dont call dont tell them what file what day an what time an what you are going to look at ..how about you jsut stop in out of the blue a see if what i said if true..the state said ..becaseu we (the state) have nothing to hide..i said yes maybe you dont but they do ..i told them its like playing hide an go seek covering your eyes an then saying as your walking towards the couch ..saying i am walking to the couch going to look behind the couch for someone..before you get there . that makes NO sense not if you truely beleive their inocent. State is not for the kids they talk trash cant beleive any of it..you have to take care of your kids on yourown./ if you want thme educated exspecially if they have special needs ..then you have to be the one to make sure they get educated . i took mine out of public schools..he wasnt being taught any how..i dont need a baby sitter i wanted him educated.. he is now home schooled with a certified teacher five hours a day one on one at our home..plus has alot of benifites offered to him this way . NO one will care for your child like you will they dont care..its not their kdis an once the year is over they wont have to deal with your child ..not like you he will be in your life an you wil love your child for ever.. to them they are here today gone tomorrow. write me i will hook you up with a mom who i think can help you.. :-) HUG
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